Dealing with the Anger of Others
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1
At some point you will have to deal with an angry person. It’s life. You’re bound to have disagreements and misunderstandings with others. Some might address you in an angry tone or with hateful words. How you respond is important.
Notice, an answer should be given. It’s not good to remain silent when a response is needed. Yes there are times for silence but an angry outburst deserves an answer.
The best answer is a soft one. What is a soft answer? It’s a kind answer with gentle words. Don’t mistake this for weakness. Firm words can be spoken with softness and a rebuke may be given with gentle words.
Why give a soft answer? Out of Christian love. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. (1 John 4:11). Also, with a desire to have peace. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men (Romans 12:18).
The result, wrath will be turned away and the angry offender will be silenced. Like putting water on fire, the quarrel will be quenched. You might gain a friend, or if nothing else, put an end to the argument.
What must be avoided is the temptation to retaliate. The wrath of an angry person can hurt and upon hearing their bitter words you may feel like striking back, using your words to insult or injure. Sometimes it’s difficult not to react in the flesh, but remember, an incorrect answer will only cause more problems. Grievous words are contentious, bitter, and angry. Like pouring gasoline on a fire, grievous words stir up strife. Instead of peace the quarrel becomes heated, words turn more furious and cruel, resulting in a bitter argument or even a feud. The fire that could have been put out, rages on.
The best response is a mild one. Seek to diffuse the situation with a soft answer. In doing so you will maintain your testimony while honoring God.
Thanks for reading…
Pastor Ramirez